Monthly Archives: July 2013

going backwards to get going forwards

Kristen Wiig *photo credit -
Kristen Wiig *photo credit –

Sounds like a crazy plan right?  Well it is!  But it is what most of us go through trying to make a life in a foreign country.  This seems to happen to me after a prolonged period of what seemingly could be labeled as non-productivity.  I get a burst of momentum that makes me feel nearly unstoppable but to get going forwards means to step backwards.  What do I mean by that?  Let me try to explain it.

Every time I take a trip home (USA) I often get very nostalgic, of course.  Inevitably, this makes me take inventory of the things I want in my life.  I have a lot now but one thing that is missing is a career or simply work that is satisfactory.  I want to be a service to others outside of my family and yeah, I want to get paid for it.

I was raised in a house that evolved with the times.  My mother stayed home with us up until there were 4 of us.  She decided to go back to school and finish her degree then move on to get a Masters degree.  The whole time she was achieving this I was in high school.  You can imagine that this set a very powerful example for me.   By  her achievement, I learned: No matter where you are in your life you can change your circumstances.   She went back to school in a city 2 hours south of our hometown while holding down a part time job.  She did this for several nights a week until she finished her degree.  I remember she needed my help in getting signed up for graduation as she was healing from a surgery.  I went to the office of Library Science to enroll her.  Everyone knew her and were thrilled to meet her daughter.  It was so wonderful to meet strangers who saw my mother in a different way than I had.  It made me proud to be her daughter.

Like her, I love being home with my child.  I am very thankful that we are able to sustain a quality life while allowing me the time to nurture our child’s development.   I never thought I would have the opportunity.  But I also want to give my daughter the example of having both a career and being a good mother/domestic goddess (homemaker is such a loaded word for me so I’m opting to use Roseanne Barr‘s interpretation).  I also want to be more apart of this community.  But in order to get there I have to get back into the workforce.  My options as an expatriate are limited since quite often the most positions of value call for specialized degrees AND experience in that field.  I know this because I’ve been through the gambit a few years back.   In order to get moving forward I will have to go backwards and get a lower level job to a) either work my way up or b) get more education, as my mother did.  I’ve been living here for almost 5 years and it can be frustrating to realize I am still working this out.  I am often worried about making the wrong choice in which direction I want to go.  Education is an investment of your time and money.  I want to be sure that I do something valuable for myself, my family and the community.


Happy Birthday Rembrandt!

Rembrandt van Rijn was born on this day, July 15, 407 years ago.  He is one of my favorite painters, and it just so happens, comes from the same town as my husband.  In honor of his birthday I wanted to post this painting.  It is not so famous but one that I really love.

Bathsheba at her bath *photo credit


this one thing…

Since returning home, I’ve been working on getting back into a routine with the baby and myself.  We seemed to have been working through a prolonged jet lag throughout the week!  As I work out these minor details and figure out how to get moving on more posts (part of the routine) I wanted to make sure to recognize this one thing before it got away from me.

I would liPrintke to graciously thank I AM EXPAT for listing my blog on their site.  Their link is listed under the resources page.  If you are new to the Netherlands this is a great site to visit.  I will eventually add their feed to the blog, as soon as I figure it out.

Have a great weekend! And as always, if you wish to share your love story with me please fill out the form here!